In this article, we’re going to discuss “love” emotion in humans from scientific aspect of view. We will look to love from both male and female gender’s view.
This article may not adapt with your general spiritual perspective of love.
What is love?
Love contains 3 main part; Lust, Attraction, Attachment.
Lust
Looking to a beautiful woman or a handsome boy is processed in frontal lobe of brain and cause your over or testis to secrete Estrogen or Testosterone.
These sex hormones will increase blood flow to your lymbic system in brain, which is responsible for learning and memory. This is primary response of body to sexual triggers. Tachycardia and muscle cramps follows this. It also effects on muscles to look bigger in order to attract opposite sex, female body also response to this by activating genital and lower-part muscles. These are only short acts of those hormones.
Attraction
Main purpose of love is making new individuals. and as you know,this will not happen with eye-to-eye contact, you have to have a motivation to go through and persuade your opposite sex to carry your sperm for 9 months (This is why women are more selective rather than men ).
Now Dopamine take role and cause you to experience that euphoric state, which cause those butterflies to fly over your stomach!
Read more about Dopamine and its effects: https://secortia.home.blog/2019/06/03/dopamine/
Now you’re both mentally prepared for this and it’s turn for physical symptoms for reflecting your emotions. Nor-epinephrine is secreted from supra-renal glands and cause your heart to pump like crazy! You are ready to reach your heavy high! you feel yourself like you’re in skies, because of these emotions you will feel that you can’t experience this state with another person and feel yourself heavily addicted to that person.
Serotonin level decreases so fast. Serotonin is hormone of relaxation. your mind should push you out of your comfort-zone,so you must not feel yourself less stressed.
Attachment
Last but not least, attachment is the predominant factor in long-term relationships. While lust and attraction are pretty much exclusive to romantic entanglements, attachment mediates friendships, parent-infant bonding, social cordiality, and many other intimacies as well. The two primary hormones here appear to be oxytocin and vasopressin.
Oxytocin is often nicknamed “cuddle hormone” for this reason. Like dopamine, oxytocin is produced by the hypothalamus and released in large quantities during sex, breastfeeding, and childbirth. This may seem like a very strange assortment of activities – not all of which are necessarily enjoyable – but the common factor here is that all of these events are precursors to bonding. It also makes it pretty clear why having separate areas for attachment, lust, and attraction is important: we are attached to our immediate family, but those other emotions have no business there.
What about evolution?
This is my favorite part of love story. It actually explains 90 percent of our fantasy and how perfectly our brain is organized to find an appropriate person to love.
Men are capable of make multiple women pregnant at the same day. After ejaculation or reaching a state which your brain says “We’re done”, Men brain tend to secrete less Dopamine when a relation prolonged. briefly men brain order one thing to them ” Make women pregnant, as many as you can”
Women brain wants to find most strong person, which can protect she and her potential baby in future. As you know pregnancy takes place in women body, so they have to make relationships long enough. They’re jealous because they know men tend to have sex with everyone, and having multiple sexes will lead less attention from him to protect her. So they have to be jealous!
Fantasy!
Why we like smart people while others are attracted to color of skin?
According to Arthur Schopenhauer, every person searches for things that they can’t find it in themselves. what does it mean?
It means if you see yourself as short person, height will be critical option in choosing partner. I know many of you had at least a girlfriend that didn’t satisfied with their own height and these kind of people will always looking for tall people.
But for people who are satisfied with their own height, being tall or short wouldn’t make difference. of course if in your society being tall isn’t that rare.
Or imagine a brunette girl that craves for blonde boys. These arguments are right when a person see that feature as deficiency in themselves.
In other hand, imagine a spoiled boy that people always compliment him for being smart, in future these kind of people want to make their next generation even more smart by selecting well-educated partner.
Briefly, if you’re looking for smart people, maybe you’re a dumb person.
But evolution always want us to be in middle, not too smart, not too tall, not too beautiful. It’s so critical to maintain a healthy society that everyone have chance to make new child.
In the end, everyone is capable of defining love for themselves. And, for better or for worse, if it’s all hormones, maybe each of us can have “chemistry” with just about anyone. But whether or not it goes further is still up to the rest of you.
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