Social anxiety is a phenomenon when your brain thinks everyone wants to attack you and start to defend itself by pushing you away with every trick that he can do, and it leads to various problems that we are going to discuss in this article.
According to “Social Anxiety Institute” : Social anxiety is the fear of being judged and evaluated negatively by other people, leading to feelings of inadequacy, inferiority, self-consciousness, embarrassment, humiliation, and depression.
Read More about what is social anxiety in: https://socialanxietyinstitute.org/what-is-social-anxiety
I’m going through one of my personal experiences :
I was an only child, my dad and mom were both working and didn’t find so much time to separate for me, I started to play with myself, in one of my games i was chasing a burglar but, burglar and police both was me. I separated myself from whole of the world and I thought I’m perfect all the time and everyone should obey me and know how perfect I am.
Time passed and I entered my teenage period, I got out of home to find some new friend and I found it but, they were not praising me for playing volleyball perfectly, you know why? because I didn’t play volleyball perfectly, In reality I sucked at playing it but when I was alone in my imagination I was playing it like Ivan Zaytsev.
I didn’t play with them very much but talking with’em. I tried to prove my superiority through my knowledge. You know what, people want their friends to have less knowledge from them, so they rejected me and tried to bullying me. IT WAS HORRIBLE!, I wanted to be socialized but didn’t know how to. So I stepped back and stayed in my own shelter(home) and study,study,study. I couldn’t find many friends in my teenage period.
I entered university and being social is an obligation here, I study every bit of social psychology about what people want from you and implemented it people started to love me because I knew when to admire and when to criticize. In this period I got into a toxic relationship that she wanted to limit my social activities, this was my first mistake. Then she tried to limit all of my social activity because she believed that I should be for her not anyone else. It triggered my social phobia, I didn’t know what to do when I’m in social and my brain start to perceive other people as a danger and this is how you get social phobia. It should be something in the past to trigger it.
Social Phobia| Symptoms:
- Being introduced to other people
- Being teased or criticized
- Being the center of attention
- Being watched while doing something
- Meeting people in authority (“important people”)
- Most social encounters, especially with strangers
- Going around the room (or table) in a circle and having to say something
- Interpersonal relationships, whether friendships or romantic
Doing one of things above and experiencing intense heartbeat, urge to void, overthinking, sweating, tremor and all of other fight-or-flight signs?
You Probably have Social phobia.
This is so intense feeling that it can ruin your life despite 20 percent of society has it there’s only small group of people which they experience symptoms as tense as they can’t continue social activities, This problem isn’t a joke or as simple as most people say it is, meet your doctor to start medication.
Social anxiety can ruin you life and hopes, It can make you to . Don’t let it do, you are strong creature. In next article we’re going to talk about what to do? and my personal successful method to overcome social anxiety.
Shyness and Social phobia are different things, you can test it here:https://socialanxietyinstitute.org/test-social-anxiety-disorder-find-out-if-you-suffer-social-phobia
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